What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.
Interpretation
Unresolved issues from a parent's past can negatively impact their parenting style.
Virginia Satir suggests that the personal histories and unresolved conflicts of parents can significantly influence their behaviors and decisions in raising children. This means that what parents have experienced, whether positive or negative, can manifest in their parenting approach, potentially leading to irrational or unintended consequences that affect their children's development and emotional well-being.
In practice
During a parenting workshop, a speaker may reference this quote to highlight the importance of self-awareness in parenting.
Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understand, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not.
The message sent is not always the message received.
The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.
Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.
Put together all the existing families and you have society. It is as simple as that. Whatever kind of training took place in the individual family will be reflected in the kind of society that these families create.
I feel that adolescence has served its purpose when a person arrives at adulthood with a strong sense of self-esteem, the ability to relate intimately, to communicate congruently, to take responsibility, and to take risks. The end of adolescence is the beginning of adulthood. What hasn't been finished then will have to be finished later.
I never had a mother. I suppose a mother is one to whom you hurry when you are troubled.
I want to be around to see my son grow up and to enjoy my grandkids, which means I need to make my health a priority.
Let me tell you a secret about a father's love,/A secret that my daddy said was just between us.β/He said, βDaddies don't just love their children every now and then./It's a love without end, amen, it's a love without end, amen.
Christmas won't be Christmas without any presents," grumbled Jo, lying on the rug. "It's so dreadful to be poor!" sighed Meg, looking down at her old dress. "I don't think it's fair for some girls to have plenty of pretty things, and other girls nothing at all," added little Amy, with an injured sniff. "We've got Father and Mother, and each other," said Beth contentedly from her corner.
My first-born. All I can remember of her is how she loved the burned bottom of bread. Can you beat that? Eight children and that's all I remember.
A family is a place where principles are hammered and honed on the anvil of everyday living.
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