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When people talk, they lay lines on each other, do a lot of role playing, sidestep, shilly-shally and engage in all manner of vagueness and innuendo. We do this and expect others to do it, yet at the same time we profess to long for the plain truth, for people to say what they mean, simple as that. Such hypocrisy is a human universal.
Steven Pinker
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What this quote means

The quote reflects on the contradiction between our desire for honesty and our tendency to communicate indirectly.

In this quote, Steven Pinker critiques the complexity and often dishonest nature of human communication. He highlights how individuals engage in indirect ways of speaking, filled with ambiguity, yet paradoxically yearn for straightforwardness and truth from others. This hypocrisy, he argues, is a shared characteristic of humanity, revealing the tension between our communication styles and our authentic desires for clarity.

Themes

CommunicationTruthHypocrisyHonestyAmbivalence

In practice

Example use cases

During a workshop on effective communication, this quote can be used to illustrate the importance of honesty.

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