It is in books, poems, paintings which often give us the confidence to take seriously feelings in ourselves that we might otherwise never have thought to acknowledge.
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To a shameful extent, the charm of marriage boils down to how unpleasant it is to be alone.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Marriage often appeals to individuals because the alternative, being alone, can feel deeply unappealing.
Alain De Botton suggests that the allure of marriage is significantly tied to the discomfort of loneliness. This indicates that many people may enter into marital unions not just for love or companionship, but also as a way to escape the inherent difficulties of being single, implying that the fears of solitude can drive individuals toward partnership.
Themes
MarriageLonelinessRelationshipsLoveCompanionship
In practice
Example use cases
During a wedding toast, to highlight the importance of companionship.
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