Grown-ups love figures... When you tell them you've made a new friend they never ask you any questions about essential matters. They never say to you "What does his voice sound like? What games does he love best? Does he collect butterflies? " Instead they demand "How old is he? How much does he weigh? How much money does his father make? " Only from these figures do they think they have learned anything about him.
The strong are strengthened by reverses; the trouble is that the true meaning of events scores next to nothing in the match we play with men. Appearances decide our gains or losses and the points are trumpery. And a mere semblance of defeat may hopelessly checkmate us.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote emphasizes how appearances and perceptions often influence our understanding of success and failure, overshadowing true meaning.
Antoine De Saint-Exupery highlights the idea that in life, the way events are perceived often matters more than their actual substance. He suggests that while challenges can strengthen us, the superficial interpretations of success or failure can significantly impact our experiences and outcomes. The quote illustrates that what may seem like a defeat could have profound implications, often leading to unexpected consequences based on how we or others perceive it.
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Example use cases
This quote can be used in a motivational speech about overcoming obstacles.
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When a mystery is too overpowering, one dare not disobey.
When the body sinks into death, the essence of man is revealed. Man is a knot, a web, a mesh into which relationships are tied. Only those relationships matter. The body is an old crock that nobody will miss. I have never known a man to think of himself when dying. Never.
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