Grown-ups love figures... When you tell them you've made a new friend they never ask you any questions about essential matters. They never say to you "What does his voice sound like? What games does he love best? Does he collect butterflies? " Instead they demand "How old is he? How much does he weigh? How much money does his father make? " Only from these figures do they think they have learned anything about him.
In those days, I didn't understand anything. I should have judged her according to her actions, not her words. She perfumed my planet and lit up my life. I should never have run away! I ought to have realized the tenderness underlying her silly pretensions. Flowers are so contadictory! But I was too young to know how to love her.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The speaker reflects on a past relationship, emphasizing the importance of understanding actions over words in love.
In this quote, the speaker recalls a time of misunderstanding in a relationship due to an inability to appreciate the deeper emotions behind a partner's actions and words. The speaker acknowledges regret for not recognizing the love and tenderness that were present, suggesting that youth often leads to misjudgments in matters of the heart. The imagery of flowers symbolizes beauty and contradiction, reinforcing the complexity of love and the importance of emotional awareness.
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In practice
Example use cases
Sharing this quote at a wedding to highlight the importance of understanding each other's actions in love.
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