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Studies show that aggressively expressing anger doesn't relieve anger but amplifies it. On the other hand, not expressing anger often allows it to disappear without leaving ugly traces.
Gretchen Rubin
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Expressing anger may worsen it, while not expressing it can lead to resolution.

This quote by Gretchen Rubin emphasizes the counterintuitive nature of anger management. While many believe that letting anger out through aggressive expressions can be beneficial, research indicates that this behavior often intensifies the feeling of anger. Conversely, suppressing or appropriately managing one's anger can lead to its natural resolution without the negative consequences that often accompany aggressive outbursts.

Themes

AngerExpressionEmotionsManagementResolution

In practice

Example use cases

In a discussion about mental health, you might mention this quote to highlight healthy emotional expression.

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