The only possible recourse a baby has when his screams are ignored is to repress his distress, which is tantamount to mutilating his soul, for the result is an interference with his ability to feel, to be aware, and to remember.
Alice MillerRead
It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is maintained. But it is true that we are daily producing more evil and, with it, an ocean of suffering for millions that is absolutely avoidable. When one day the ignorance arising from childhood repression is eliminated and humanity has awakened, an end can be put to this production of evil.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Humanity can overcome evil and suffering through awareness and the elimination of ignorance.
Alice Miller's quote reflects on the nature of evil and suffering in human existence. She emphasizes that while many believe that destructiveness is an inherent part of humanity, it is actually the result of ignorance and repression nurtured from childhood. By addressing and eliminating these root causes, humanity can prevent the suffering that arises from evil actions, suggesting a path towards enlightenment and moral progress.
Themes
EvilSufferingIgnoranceHumanityChildhoodRepressionEnlightenment
In practice
Example use cases
In a seminar about overcoming personal struggles, this quote can highlight the importance of addressing childhood experiences.
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All quotes →The truth about childhood, as many of us have had to endure it, is inconceivable, scandalous, painful. Not uncommonly, it is monstrous. Invariably, it is repressed. To be confronted with this truth all at once and to try to integrate it into our consciousness, however ardently we may wish it, is clearly impossible.
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We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people.
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If it's very painful for you to criticize your friends - you're safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that's the time to hold your tongue.
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