The only possible recourse a baby has when his screams are ignored is to repress his distress, which is tantamount to mutilating his soul, for the result is an interference with his ability to feel, to be aware, and to remember.
Alice MillerRead
We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of respecting children's individuality and nurturing their self-esteem.
Alice Miller highlights the profound impact of parental respect on children's development. She suggests that if children were raised in environments free from humiliation and were treated as serious individuals, the world might be a drastically different and more positive place, fostering healthy self-worth and creativity in future generations.
Themes
ChildrenRespectParentingHumiliationDevelopment
In practice
Example use cases
In a parenting workshop, this quote could be used to discuss the importance of mutual respect between parents and children.
More from Alice Miller
All quotes →The truth about childhood, as many of us have had to endure it, is inconceivable, scandalous, painful. Not uncommonly, it is monstrous. Invariably, it is repressed. To be confronted with this truth all at once and to try to integrate it into our consciousness, however ardently we may wish it, is clearly impossible.
Alice MillerRead
I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively--because idealization of his parents was essential for his survival.
Alice MillerRead
It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is maintained. But it is true that we are daily producing more evil and, with it, an ocean of suffering for millions that is absolutely avoidable. When one day the ignorance arising from childhood repression is eliminated and humanity has awakened, an end can be put to this production of evil.
Alice MillerRead
Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.
Alice MillerRead
If it's very painful for you to criticize your friends - you're safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that's the time to hold your tongue.
Alice MillerRead
Similar quotes
The most valuable of all capital is that invested in human beings
Alfred MarshallRead
Every book you pick up has its own lesson or lessons, and quite often the bad books have more to teach than the good ones.
Stephen KingRead
If your words aren't truthful, the finest optically letter-spaced typography won't help.
Edward TufteRead
Traditionally, psychology has been the study of two populations: university freshmen and white rats.
Paul BloomRead
A book is a loaded gun in the house next door...Who knows who might be the target of the well-read man?
Ray BradburyRead
It was never factually true that young people learn to read or do arithmetic primarily by being taught these things. These things are learned, but not really taught at all. Over-teaching interferes with learning, although the few who survive it may well come to imagine it was by an act of teaching.
John Taylor GattoRead