Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
Jay ShettyRead
I see my whole 20s as a massive experiment. So were my teens. I think the problem is that we're not encouraged to experiment; we're encouraged to decide and choose, be singular and focused. You can't be that until you experiment. You don't know what's going to work until you try it.
Interpretation
Embracing experimentation in life fosters growth and discovery.
This quote highlights the importance of viewing life as an ongoing experiment, particularly during formative years like one’s teens and twenties. It suggests that societal pressure to make definitive choices often stifles the natural process of exploration and discovery. By encouraging experimentation, individuals can uncover what truly resonates with them, ultimately leading to more informed and fulfilling decisions in the future.
In practice
During a career workshop, I shared the quote to emphasize the value of trying different paths before settling on a career.
Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
Expectations are not based on reality. They are observations, expected realities, or beliefs of what you think will happen. Expectations of others stop us from acting as our highest selves and reaching our full potential.
We think we have to become something else to be satisfied, not realizing that being ourselves is the only thing that can satisfy us.
If we don't choose to intentionally and consciously slow down and stop being in a rush, your body and mind will force you to do it anyway.
When I became a monk, it didn't feel like I was giving up that much. I actually felt like I had made the best decision, because anyone who hadn't focused on building themselves up was the one losing out.
Real love is figuring out how someone wants to be loved and loving them in that way.
Confession of errors is like a broom which sweeps away the dirt and leaves the surface brighter and clearer. I feel stronger for confession.
And it is very much lamented,... That you have no such mirrors as will turn Your hidden worthiness into your eye That you might see your shadow.
The problem lies with us: we've become addicted to experts. We've become addicted to their certainty, their assuredness, their definitiveness, and in the process, we have ceded our responsibility, substituting our intellect and our intelligence for their supposed words of wisdom.
If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to worry about it; if you cannot do anything, then there is also no need to worry.
In the intellectual order, the virtue of humility is nothing more nor less than the power of attention.
The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers.
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