Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
Jay ShettyRead
I see my whole 20s as a massive experiment. So were my teens. I think the problem is that we're not encouraged to experiment; we're encouraged to decide and choose, be singular and focused. You can't be that until you experiment. You don't know what's going to work until you try it.
Interpretation
Embracing experimentation in life fosters growth and discovery.
This quote highlights the importance of viewing life as an ongoing experiment, particularly during formative years like one’s teens and twenties. It suggests that societal pressure to make definitive choices often stifles the natural process of exploration and discovery. By encouraging experimentation, individuals can uncover what truly resonates with them, ultimately leading to more informed and fulfilling decisions in the future.
In practice
During a career workshop, I shared the quote to emphasize the value of trying different paths before settling on a career.
Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
Expectations are not based on reality. They are observations, expected realities, or beliefs of what you think will happen. Expectations of others stop us from acting as our highest selves and reaching our full potential.
We think we have to become something else to be satisfied, not realizing that being ourselves is the only thing that can satisfy us.
If we don't choose to intentionally and consciously slow down and stop being in a rush, your body and mind will force you to do it anyway.
When I became a monk, it didn't feel like I was giving up that much. I actually felt like I had made the best decision, because anyone who hadn't focused on building themselves up was the one losing out.
Real love is figuring out how someone wants to be loved and loving them in that way.
It now seemed to me that all my other guesses had been only self-pleasing dreams spun out of my wishes, but now I was awake.
Certain things, certain events, seem inexplicable only for a time: up to the moment when the veil is torn aside.
The definition of the good life is doing creative things, whether making music, trying to figure out how to do a particular piece of code, or putting together investments.
I'm used to people with very high IQs knowing how to recognize reality, but there's a huge human tendency where it may be instructive to think that whatever you're doing to succeed is all right.
The future must enter you long before it happens.
Work kills no one, but worry has killed multitudes… Worry not only saps vitality and wastes energy, but it also seriously affects the quality of one's work. It cuts down ability. A man cannot get the highest quality of efficiency into his work when his mind is troubled. The mental faculties must have perfect freedom before they will give out their best. A troubled brain cannot think clearly, vigorously, and logically.
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