Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
Jay ShettyRead
Expectations are not based on reality. They are observations, expected realities, or beliefs of what you think will happen. Expectations of others stop us from acting as our highest selves and reaching our full potential.
Interpretation
Expectations can distort our perception of reality and limit our potential.
This quote by Jay Shetty emphasizes that expectations are often personal beliefs or observations rather than true reflections of reality. When we allow the expectations of others to dictate our actions, we may hinder our growth and fail to reach our maximum capabilities, thereby preventing us from becoming the best versions of ourselves.
In practice
In a motivational speech to inspire self-improvement.
Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
We think we have to become something else to be satisfied, not realizing that being ourselves is the only thing that can satisfy us.
I see my whole 20s as a massive experiment. So were my teens. I think the problem is that we're not encouraged to experiment; we're encouraged to decide and choose, be singular and focused. You can't be that until you experiment. You don't know what's going to work until you try it.
If we don't choose to intentionally and consciously slow down and stop being in a rush, your body and mind will force you to do it anyway.
When I became a monk, it didn't feel like I was giving up that much. I actually felt like I had made the best decision, because anyone who hadn't focused on building themselves up was the one losing out.
Real love is figuring out how someone wants to be loved and loving them in that way.
Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection - or compassionate action.
With ills unending strives the putter off.
Such is the state of every age, every sex, and every condition: all have their cares, either from nature or from folly; and whoever, therefore, finds himself inclined to envy another, should remember that he knows not the real condition which he desires to obtain, but is certain that by indulging a vicious passion, he must lessen that happiness which he thinks already too sparingly bestowed.
criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurt his sense of importace and arouse resentment.
Simple questions can be profound, and answering them requires us to make stark and honest - and sometimes painful - self-assessments.
If you are insulted, if you are accused, if they gossip about you, don't say anything bad. Don't be the one who sees the shame, be the one who corrects it.
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