I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.
Interpretation
The quote emphasizes the importance of appreciating others without judgment and respecting their boundaries.
Virginia Satir's quote highlights the essence of healthy relationships, advocating for a way of connecting with others that is based on appreciation, freedom, and mutual respect. It suggests that love and connection should be devoid of judgment, demands, or guilt, fostering an environment where individuals can authentically engage with one another without feeling pressured or invaded. This perspective invites a balance between closeness and autonomy, essential for nurturing meaningful connections.
In practice
During a workshop on healthy relationships, this quote can inspire discussions about boundaries.
Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understand, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not.
The message sent is not always the message received.
What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.
The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.
Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.
Put together all the existing families and you have society. It is as simple as that. Whatever kind of training took place in the individual family will be reflected in the kind of society that these families create.
Find fault when you must find fault in private, and if possible sometime after the offense, rather than at the time.
You cannot let your parents anywhere near your real humiliations.
Crocodiles are easy. They try to kill and eat you. People are harder. Sometimes they pretend to be your friend first.
One of the reasons that metaphor and symbolism are important in books is because they are also important to life. Like, for example say you're in high school and you're a boy and you say to a girl: "Do you like anyone right now?" - that's not the question you're asking. The question you're asking is, "do you like me right now."
Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them.
Are you the new person drawn toward me?
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