Relapse is very dangerous. However, relapse can be a symptom of the disease. Sometimes there are multiple relapses before you get sober and stay sober.
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At my worst, I even resented Nic because an addict, at least when high, has a momentary respite from his suffering. There is no similar relief for parents or children or husbands or wives or others who love them.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects the struggles and resentments felt by loved ones of addicts, highlighting their lack of relief from suffering.
David Sheff's quote encapsulates the deep pain and frustration experienced by the family members and loved ones of an addict. While the addict may find temporary escape from their suffering through substances, their loved ones are left in an unrelenting state of emotional turmoil and distress. This contrast emphasizes the often overlooked hardships faced by those who care for individuals grappling with addiction, revealing that their struggle is different yet equally profound.
Themes
AddictionSufferingLoveFamilyResentment
In practice
Example use cases
During a support group meeting for families of addicts, this quote can serve to highlight the emotional pain experienced by loved ones.
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Through Nic's drug addiction, I have learned that parents can bear almost anything....I shock myself with my ability to rationalize and tolerate things once unthinkable. The rationalizations escalate....It's only marijuana. He gets high only on weekends. At least he's not using hard drugs.
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