The only possible recourse a baby has when his screams are ignored is to repress his distress, which is tantamount to mutilating his soul, for the result is an interference with his ability to feel, to be aware, and to remember.
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Children who are respected learn respect. Children who are cared for learn to care for those weaker than themselves. Children who are loved for what they are cannot learn intolerance. In an environment such as this, they will develop their own ideals, which can be nothing other than humane, since they grew out of the experience of love.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Respect, care, and love in upbringing foster humane values in children.
In this quote, Alice Miller emphasizes the importance of a nurturing environment in childhood development. When children are treated with respect, care, and love, they learn to extend those qualities to others, creating a foundation for empathy and humaneness. This perspective suggests that negative attitudes like intolerance cannot take root when children grow up in a loving and supportive atmosphere, ultimately leading them to develop their own compassionate ideals.
Themes
ChildrenRespectLoveEducationHumanity
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be shared in a parenting workshop to emphasize the importance of positive parenting.
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We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people.
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I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively--because idealization of his parents was essential for his survival.
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