Everybody, to some extent, manipulates. Even children learn to cry when they want something. There are all kinds of subtle things we do to get others to follow our lead, not bother us, and so on.
Interpretation
Manipulation is a natural behavior that everyone engages in, consciously or unconsciously.
This quote emphasizes that manipulation is an inherent part of human interaction, not just a negative trait. From an early age, individuals learn to influence others through various subtle behaviors, whether to fulfill their own needs or to navigate social dynamics. Greene suggests that understanding this aspect of human nature can lead to greater awareness in social situations.
In practice
In a psychology class discussing social influence, this quote illustrates how manipulation is a part of human behavior.
In a society where the roles everyone plays are obvious, the refusal to conform to any standard will excite interest. Be both masculine and feminine, impudent and charming, subtle and outrageous. Let other people worry about being socially acceptable; those types are a dime a dozen, and you are after a power greater than they can imagine.
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike.
The moment people feel they know what to expect from you, your spell on them is broken. More: You have ceded them power.
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The Nihilistic Troll might pretend to be acting in the service of some cause or leader, but don't be fooled. The cause and their supposedly strong convictions are simply a way to justify and provide cover for their abusive behavior.
Only create associations with positive affinities. Make this a rule of life and you will benefit more than from all the therapy in the world.
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The psyche of the individual is commensurate with the totality of creative energy. This requires a most radical revision of Western psychology.
The aim of psychoanalysis is to relieve people of their neurotic unhappiness so that they can be normally unhappy.
There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum.
If we think about emotion this way - as outside-in, not inside out - it is possible to understand how some people can have an enormous amount of influence over others. Some of us, after all, are very good at expressiing emotions and feelings, which means that we are far more emotionally contagious than the rest of us.
Psychoanalysis is a terribly efficient instrument, and because it is more and more a prestigious instrument, we run the risk of using it with a purpose for which it was not made for, and in this way we may degrade it.
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