Hospitality is gold in this City; you have to be clever to figure out how to be welcoming and defensive at the same time. When to love something and when to quit. If you don't know how, you can end up out of control or controlled by some outside thing like that hard case last winter.
Interpretation
Hospitality requires a balance between being welcoming and maintaining boundaries.
This quote by Toni Morrison highlights the duality of hospitality in a complex environment. It emphasizes the importance of being both generous and discerning, knowing when to embrace opportunities that arise and when to protect oneself from potential negative influences. It suggests that without this wisdom, one risks losing control either by overextending oneself or being dominated by external circumstances.
In practice
Sharing this quote during a discussion on maintaining healthy relationships can provide insight into balancing openness and boundaries.
There is a certain kind of peace that is not merely the absence of war. It is larger than that. The peace I am thinking of is not at the mercy of history's rule, nor is it a passive surrender to the status quo. The peace I am thinking of is the dance of an open mind when it engages another equally open one -- an activity that occurs most naturally, most often in the reading/writing world we live in. Accessible as it is, this particular kind of peace warrants vigilance.
You looking good." "Devil's confusion. He lets me look good long as I feel bad.
What do you say? There really are no words for that. There really aren't. Somebody tries to say, 'I'm sorry, I'm so sorry.' People say that to me. There's no language for it. Sorry doesn't do it. I think you should just hug people and mop their floor or something.
An innocent man is a sin before God. Inhuman and therefore untrustworthy. No man should live without absorbing the sins of his kind, the foul air of his innocence, even if it did wilt rows of angel trumpets and cause them to fall from their vines.
Like friendship, hatred needed more than physical intimacy; it wanted creativity and hard work to sustain itself
One of my kids was born in 1968. There were going to be political difficulties, but they were never going to have that level of hatred and contempt that my brothers and my sister and myself were exposed to.
It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to.
When they were introduced, he made a witticism, hoping to be liked. She laughed extremely hard, hoping to be liked. Then each drove home alone, staring straight ahead, with the very same twist to their faces. The man who'd introduced them didn't much like either of them, though he acted as if he did, anxious as he was to preserve good relations at all times. One never knew, after all, now did one now did one now did one.
..... it would be interesting to find out what goes on in that moment when someone looks at you and draws all sorts of conclusions.
I have been treated better than I should have been---not by life in general nor by the machinery of things but by women.
You have to know how to co-operate with other people if you want to stay alive and raise children. And to do that, you need to know something about them. You need to know who loves whom, who hates whom, who is sleeping with whom. Who is honest, who is a cheat.
She said, why don't we both just sleep on it tonight,_x000D_ And I believe, in the morning you'll begin to see the light._x000D_ And then she kissed me and I realized she probably was right,_x000D_ There must be fifty ways to leave your lover, fifty ways to leave your lover.
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