Price doesn't make deals, and salary doesn't control your career.
Christopher VossRead
When you expect to get into a negotiation, you expect to be faced by a guy that's going to attack you, a guy or gal that's going to attack or that they're going to try to get the best of you. Two-thirds of us, that makes us very defensive.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Negotiation often creates defensive attitudes due to the perceived threat from the other party.
In this quote, Christopher Voss emphasizes that entering negotiations often leads individuals to adopt a defensive posture because they anticipate aggressive tactics from the opposing party. This natural reaction can hinder effective communication and collaboration, suggesting that understanding the dynamics of negotiation is crucial for achieving positive outcomes.
Themes
NegotiationDefensiveCommunicationConflictTactics
In practice
Example use cases
Using this quote in a workshop on negotiation skills can highlight the psychological barriers that participants face.
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Very few negotiations are begun and concluded in the same sitting. It's really rare. In fact, If you sit down and actually complete your negotiation in one sitting, you left stuff on the table.
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