The sweetest two words in any negotiation are actually, 'That's right.' Before you convince them to see what you're trying to accomplish, you have to say the things to them that will get them to say, 'That's right.'
Interpretation
Acknowledging others' viewpoints is essential for effective negotiation.
In negotiations, the phrase 'That's right' signifies agreement and understanding. Christopher Voss emphasizes that to successfully convey your perspective, you first must recognize and validate the other person's thoughts, fostering a collaborative atmosphere that encourages mutual agreement and progress.
In practice
In a business meeting focused on contract discussions.
When you expect to get into a negotiation, you expect to be faced by a guy that's going to attack you, a guy or gal that's going to attack or that they're going to try to get the best of you. Two-thirds of us, that makes us very defensive.
Price doesn't make deals, and salary doesn't control your career.
There are three kinds of yeses. There's commitment, confirmation, and counterfeit. People are most used to giving the counterfeit yes because they've been trapped by the confirmation yes so many times. So the way you master no is understanding what really happens when somebody says 'no.' When yes is commitment, no is protection.
The secret to gaining the upper hand in a negotiation is to give the other side the illusion of control. Don't try to force your opponent to admit that you are right. Ask questions, that begin with 'How?' or 'What?' so your opponent uses mental energy to figure out the answer.
Very few negotiations are begun and concluded in the same sitting. It's really rare. In fact, If you sit down and actually complete your negotiation in one sitting, you left stuff on the table.
The most dangerous negotiation is the one you don't know you're in.
Do not be bullied out of your common sense by the specialist; two to one, he is a pedant.
Do not put all your eggs in one basket.
I am poor and naked, but I am the chief of the nation. We do not want riches but we do want to train our children right. Riches would do us no good. We could not take them with us to the other world. We do not want riches. We want peace and love.
I have long since decided if you wait for the perfect time to write, you'll never write. There is no time that isn't flawed somehow.
True genius resides in the capacity for evaluation of uncertain, hazardous, and conflicting information.
If they tell you that she died of sleeping pills you must know that she died of a wasting grief, of a slow bleeding at the soul.
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