Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough.
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Normally, when someone we love is turning away from a struggle, we self-protect by also turning away. That's definitely my first response. I think change is more likely to happen if both partners have common language and a shared lens to see problems.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Mutual support and understanding in relationships can lead to positive change during struggles.
Brene Brown emphasizes the importance of connection and empathy in relationships, especially when faced with challenges. When one partner withdraws from difficult situations, the other might instinctively do the same out of self-protection. However, she argues that fostering a common understanding and shared perspectives can create an environment where both partners feel safe to confront issues together, ultimately facilitating meaningful change.
Themes
RelationshipsEmpathySupportChangeUnderstanding
In practice
Example use cases
In a couples' therapy session, this quote could be used to illustrate the importance of mutual support.
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