When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.
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A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don't function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.
Interpretation
Love and belonging are essential human needs that, when unmet, lead to negative consequences for individuals.
Brené Brown's quote emphasizes the fundamental importance of love and belonging in human life. It suggests that these needs are ingrained in our biology and psyche, and when they are not fulfilled, it results in a range of adverse effects on our mental, emotional, and physical well-being, illustrating how interconnected our emotional health is with our ability to form meaningful relationships.
In practice
During a speech emphasizing mental health, one might quote Brené Brown to highlight the importance of support systems.
When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.
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