When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.
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What we know matters but who we are matters more.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Our identity and character are more important than our knowledge and skills.
This quote emphasizes the significance of personal virtues and character in shaping who we are, suggesting that while knowledge is important, it is our essence and values that define our impact on the world and our relationships with others. Brené Brown highlights that authenticity, connection, and empathy are what truly matter in the broader scope of life.
Themes
IdentityCharacterAuthenticityKnowledgeValues
In practice
Example use cases
During a leadership seminar, you might say this quote to emphasize the importance of character over mere professional competence.
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