Depression is the flaw in love. There's no such thing as love without the anticipation of loss. And that specter of despair can be the engine of intimacy.
Andrew SolomonRead
Parenthood abruptly catapults us into a permanent relationship with a stranger.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Parenthood creates an enduring bond with a new individual that we must learn to understand and navigate.
This quote reflects the profound and often unexpected journey of parenthood, where one is thrust into a lifelong connection with their child, who starts as a stranger. It highlights the challenges and adventures of building a relationship with someone entirely new to us, requiring patience, adaptability, and love.
Themes
ParenthoodRelationshipFamilyLoveStranger
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about parenting at a local community center.
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