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People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.
Albert Ellis
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Our emotional responses are often influenced by our own thoughts and behaviors.

In this quote, Albert Ellis emphasizes that individuals play a significant role in their emotional disturbances. Rather than viewing upsetness as a purely external reaction, he suggests that our internal processes, beliefs, and interpretations contribute heavily to how we feel. This perspective encourages self-awareness and personal responsibility in managing emotions.

Themes

EmotionsUpsetResponsibilitySelf-AwarenessThoughts

In practice

Example use cases

This quote can be used during a mental health workshop to illustrate personal accountability in emotional well-being.

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