Community is a sign that love is possible in a materialistic world where people so often either ignore or fight each other. It is a sign that we don't need a lot of money to be happy--in fact, the opposite.
Jean VanierRead
Each person with his or her history of being accepted or rejected, with his or her past history of inner pain and difficulties in relationships, is different. But in each one there is a yearning for communion and belonging, but at the same time a fear of it. Love is what we most want, yet it is what we fear the most.
Interpretation
What this quote means
People desire love and connection but often fear vulnerability that comes with it.
This quote highlights the paradox of human relationships, where individuals crave acceptance and connection with others but are simultaneously apprehensive due to their past experiences of rejection and emotional pain. It emphasizes that while love is a fundamental human desire, the fear of being hurt can hold people back from fully embracing it.
Themes
LoveBelongingFearRelationshipsAcceptanceVulnerability
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about the importance of vulnerability in relationships.
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All quotes →One of the marvelous things about community is that it enables us to welcome and help people in a way we couldn't as individuals. When we pool our strength and share the work and responsibility, we can welcome many people, even those in deep distress, and perhaps help them find self-confidence and inner healing.
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We all know well that we can do things for others and in the process crush them, making them feel that they are incapable of doing things by themselves. To love someone is to reveal to them their capacities for life, the light that is shining in them.
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True peace can rarely be imposed from the outside; it must be born within and between communities through meetings and dialogue and then carried outward.
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In any case, community is not about perfect people. It is about people who are bonded to each other, each of whom is a mixture of good and bad, darkness and light, love and hate.
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We have to remind ourselves constantly that we are not saviours. We are simply a tiny sign, among thousands of others, that love is possible, that the world is not condemned to a struggle between oppressors and oppressed, that class and racial warfare is not inevitable.
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