Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-brake on.
It was as if personality itself had a 'face'. This non-physical face of personality seemed to be the real key to personality change. It remained scarred, distorted, 'ugly' or inferior the person himself acted out this role in his behaviour regardless of the changes in physical appearance. If this 'face of personality' could be reconstructed, if old emotional scars could be removed, then the person himself changed, even without facial plastic surgery.
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What this quote means
The quote suggests that true personality change comes from addressing emotional scars rather than just physical appearance.
Maxwell Maltz emphasizes that personality is deeply intertwined with emotional experiences and self-perception. He argues that external appearances do not determine one's essence; instead, the internal 'face of personality,' shaped by past experiences and emotions, plays a crucial role in one's behavior. By healing these emotional scars, individuals can transform their personalities, leading to genuine change, even if their physical appearance remains the same.
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Use this quote in a workshop on personal development to illustrate the importance of inner healing.
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