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M. Scott PeckRead
Since [narcissists] deep down, feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world's fault. Since they must deny their own badness, they must perceive others as bad. They project their own evil onto the world. They never think of themselves as evil, on the other hand, they consequently see much evil in others.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Narcissists view themselves as perfect and blame others for any conflicts, projecting their flaws onto the world.
This quote by M. Scott Peck explains the mindset of narcissists, who, due to their inability to accept their own faults, perceive any conflict as being caused by external forces. Their need to maintain a self-image of righteousness leads them to view others negatively, projecting their own shortcomings onto them rather than self-reflecting or taking responsibility for their actions.
Themes
NarcissismProjectionConflictBlameSelf-Image
In practice
Example use cases
In a psychological seminar discussing the traits of narcissistic personality disorder.
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