Go to the truth beyond the mind. Love is the bridge.
Stephen LevineRead
Our suffering is caused by holding on to how things might have been, should have been, could have been.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote suggests that our pain comes from unmet expectations and regrets about the past.
Stephen Levine highlights the notion that our suffering often stems from our attachment to idealized versions of reality, focusing on what could have been rather than accepting and embracing the present as it is. This mindset leads to emotional distress, as we dwell on regrets and 'should haves', preventing us from finding peace and happiness in our current circumstances.
Themes
SufferingAcceptanceRegretsPresentMindset
In practice
Example use cases
In a therapy session discussing the impact of unmet expectations.
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