Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
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We have a tendency to assume or believe saying I love you means we are ready for love, or that hearing it from someone else means they are ready. We just assume that we are on the same page about what it means. We don't know what someone else is thinking, projecting, assuming, expecting when they say that.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes that the phrase 'I love you' can be misconstrued, as it depends on individual understanding and expectations.
In this quote, Jay Shetty highlights that love is often taken for granted in communication, especially when expressing feelings like 'I love you.' Many people assume that such statements indicate readiness for love or mutual understanding between individuals, but this is not always the case. Each person's thoughts and feelings can differ significantly, leading to misunderstandings as they project their own interpretations onto what love means.
Themes
LoveUnderstandingCommunicationRelationshipsAssumptions
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about the complexities of love during a relationship workshop.
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