If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?
Maya AngelouRead
The thorn from the bush one has planted, nourished and pruned pricks more deeply and draws more blood.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The pain we experience from our own choices and relationships can be the most profound.
This quote by Maya Angelou emphasizes the idea that the emotional wounds we suffer from those we care about or from our own decisions can hurt the most, as we have invested time and emotion into them. The 'thorn' symbolizes the pain that arises from closeness and commitment, suggesting that it is often those we love or our own actions that impact us the most deeply.
Themes
PainRelationshipsLoveInvestmentEmotional Wounds
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about the complexities of love, one might use this quote to illustrate how deep emotional investment can lead to greater hurt.
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