If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?
Maya AngelouRead
The thorn from the bush one has planted, nourished and pruned pricks more deeply and draws more blood.
Interpretation
The pain we experience from our own choices and relationships can be the most profound.
This quote by Maya Angelou emphasizes the idea that the emotional wounds we suffer from those we care about or from our own decisions can hurt the most, as we have invested time and emotion into them. The 'thorn' symbolizes the pain that arises from closeness and commitment, suggesting that it is often those we love or our own actions that impact us the most deeply.
In practice
In a speech about the complexities of love, one might use this quote to illustrate how deep emotional investment can lead to greater hurt.
If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?
I find it interesting that the meanest life, the poorest existence, is attributed to God's will, but as human beings become more affluent, as their living standard and style begin to ascend the material scale, God descends the scale of responsibility at commensurate speed.
The white American man makes the white American woman maybe not superfluous but just a little kind of decoration. Not really important to turning around the wheels of the state. Well the black American woman has never been able to feel that way. No black American man at any time in our history in the United States has been able to feel that he didn't need that black woman right against him, shoulder to shoulder-in that cotton field, on the auction block, in the ghetto, wherever.
I dreamt we walked together along the shore. We made satisfying small talk and laughed. This morning I found sand in my shoe and a seashell in my pocket. Was I only dreaming?
I know that I'm not the easiest person to live with. The challenge I put on myself is so great that the person I live with feels himself challenged. I bring a lot to bear, and I don't know how not to.
I think Clinton, after getting into office and into Washington, was shocked at being bludgeoned. So he spent time trying to be all things to all people - one way guaranteed not to be successful or respected in a lion's den. You can't just play around with all those big cats - you've got to take somebody on.
I have a history with charismatic, attractive men who just wear me out.
A man's wife has more power over him than the state has.
I am not your justification for existence.
Men are allowed to have passion and commitment for their work... a woman is allowed that feeling for a man, but not her work.
In the ensuing silence, I have time to contemplate the word cute— how dismissive it is, how it’s the equivalent of calling someone little, how it makes a person into a baby, how the word is a neon sign burning through the dark reading, “Feel Bad About Yourself.
If you’re 35 and single and it’s a choice, it feels fine. So I didn’t settle with the wrong person yet. Big deal!
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