The only possible recourse a baby has when his screams are ignored is to repress his distress, which is tantamount to mutilating his soul, for the result is an interference with his ability to feel, to be aware, and to remember.
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The victimization of children is nowhere forbidden; what is forbidden is to write about it.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote critiques the silence surrounding the abuse of children while highlighting the taboo against discussing it openly.
This quote by Alice Miller emphasizes the disturbing reality that while the suffering and victimization of children is pervasive and often overlooked, societal norms tend to silence discussions about these issues. Miller suggests that the real offense is not the actual harm inflicted on children but the act of bringing those truths to light through writing and discourse, which indicates a deep-rooted discomfort regarding the topic of child abuse in society.
Themes
Child AbuseVictimizationSilenceWritingSociety
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used in a presentation about child welfare policies.
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We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people.
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I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively--because idealization of his parents was essential for his survival.
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