Explore Quotes on Needs

When we express our needs indirectly through the use of evaluations, interpretations, and images, others are likely to hear criticism. When people hear anything that sounds like criticism, they tend to invest their energy in self-defense or counterattack. It's important that when we address somebody that we're clear what we want back.

There are the two main reasons we don't get our needs met. First, we don't know how to express our needs to begin with and second if we do, we forget to put a clear request after it, or we use vague words like appreciate, listen, recognize, know, be real, and stuff like that.

Children need far more than basic skills in reading, writing, and math, as important as those might be. Children also need to learn how to think for themselves, how to find meaning in what they learn, and how to work and live together.

The number one reason that we don't get our needs met, we don't express them. We express judgments. If we do express needs, the number two reasons we don't our needs met, we don't make clear requests.

My need is for safety, fun and to have distribution of resources, a sustainable life on the planet. NVC is a strategy that serves me to meet these needs.

I believe that the most joyful and intrinsic motivation human beings have for taking any action is the desire to meet our needs and the needs of others.

Make your goal to attend to your underlying needs and to aim for a resolution so satisfying that everyone involved has their needs met also.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

Anger is a signal that you're distracted by judgmental or punitive thinking, and that some precious need of yours is being ignored.

We can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well as our own.

NVC suggests behind every action, however ineffective, tragic, violent, or abhorrent to us, is an attempt to meet a need.

Regardless of our many differences, we all have the same needs. What differs is the strategy for fulfilling these needs.

Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.

Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs.

When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack.

If we want to make meetings productive, we need to keep track of those whose requests are on the table.

NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.

The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change.

In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs.

Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value.

All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs.