You know the old adage: Plant an expectation, reap a disappointment.
Elizabeth GilbertRead
What I think is amazing is not that 85% of people who get married under the age of 25 get divorced, it's that 15% of them stay together. How did they manage to pull that off? You almost can't wait too long. It's the single simplest measure to predict divorce.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects on the surprising resilience of a minority of young marriages despite high divorce rates.
Elizabeth Gilbert highlights the paradox of marriage statistics, noting that while the majority of individuals who marry young end up divorced, a notable 15% manage to sustain their marriages. She prompts us to consider the factors that contribute to the success of these couples and the notion that sometimes, societal expectations around timing can influence relational outcomes.
Themes
MarriageDivorceRelationshipsLoveCommitment
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about marriage, you could cite this quote to challenge assumptions about young couples.
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