Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.
Marshall B. RosenbergRead
The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.
Interpretation
Blindly following societal expectations can lead to harmful outcomes.
This quote by Marshall B. Rosenberg highlights the perils of conforming to societal norms and expectations without questioning their validity. It suggests that adhering to prescribed behaviors simply because they are deemed appropriate can lead to detrimental consequences, and encourages individuals to think critically about their actions and motivations.
In practice
Using this quote in a speech about the importance of individualism and critical thinking.
Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.
Whether I praise or criticize someone's action, I imply that I am their judge, that I'm engaged in rating them or what they have done.
In nonviolent communication, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests. Then we may wish to reflect back, paraphrasing what we have understood. We stay with empathy, allowing others the opportunity to fully express themselves before we turn our attention to solutions or requests for relief.
All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that enable us to maintain a perspective of empathy for ourselves and others, even under trying conditions.
The punitive use of force tends to generate hostility and to reinforce resistance to the very behavior we are seeking.
Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.
Learn how to say no. Don't let your mouth overload your back.
Most people don't see what's going on around them. That's my principal message to writers: 'For God's sake, keep your eyes open. Notice what's going on around you.'
There are many accidents that are nothing but accidents-and forget it. But there are some that were brought about only because you are the person you are... you have the wherewithal, intelligence, and energy to recognize it and do something with it.
We come nearest to the great when we are great in humility.
How can we embrace rest and play if we've tied our self-worth to what we produce?
Journalism is just a gun. Itβs only got one bullet in it, but if you aim right, thatβs all you need. Aim it right, and you can blow a kneecap off the world.
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