Our goal should be to develop work-life policies that enable people to put their gender values into practice. So let's stop arguing about the hard choices women make and help more women and men avoid such hard choices.
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Marriage has been in a constant state of evolution since the dawn of the Stone Age. In the process, it has become more flexible - but also more optional.
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What this quote means
Marriage has changed greatly over time, becoming less rigid and more of a personal choice.
Stephanie Coontz highlights the historical evolution of marriage, suggesting that it has transformed from a rigid institution into a more flexible arrangement that individuals can choose to enter into or not. This shift reflects broader societal changes regarding commitment, partnership, and individual autonomy in relationships.
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MarriageEvolutionRelationshipsFlexibilityOptional
In practice
Example use cases
During a wedding speech, one could emphasize how marriages have transformed over the years and celebrate personal choices in partnerships.
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