Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.
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People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think about thinking about their thinking, which the goddamn dolphin, as far as we know, can't do. Therefore they have much greater ability to change themselves than any other animal has, and I hope that REBT teaches them how to do it.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Individuals play a role in their own emotional responses and have the power to change their thoughts.
This quote emphasizes the idea that human beings have a unique capacity for self-reflection and self-regulation that other animals do not possess. Albert Ellis points out that people are not merely passive victims of their emotions but active participants who can influence their feelings through their thinking processes. This awareness allows individuals to take control of their emotional well-being and encourages the practice of rational emotive behavioral therapy (REBT) to facilitate personal change and growth.
Themes
UpsetThoughtsChangeEmotionsSelf-ReflectionRebt
In practice
Example use cases
During a mental health seminar, this quote could be used to illustrate the importance of personal agency in emotional well-being.
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