The only possible recourse a baby has when his screams are ignored is to repress his distress, which is tantamount to mutilating his soul, for the result is an interference with his ability to feel, to be aware, and to remember.
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Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Sadism is rooted in childhood experiences and fantasies, not a sudden affliction.
Alice Miller's quote suggests that sadistic behavior is not simply a spontaneous occurrence in adulthood but rather has deep psychological roots that trace back to childhood. It highlights how early experiences and desperate fantasies can shape a person's behavior in harmful ways, emphasizing the importance of understanding the psychological history behind such tendencies.
Themes
SadismChildhoodPsychologyFantasiesBehavior
In practice
Example use cases
During a psychology lecture discussing the origins of aggressive behavior.
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We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people.
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I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively--because idealization of his parents was essential for his survival.
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It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is maintained. But it is true that we are daily producing more evil and, with it, an ocean of suffering for millions that is absolutely avoidable. When one day the ignorance arising from childhood repression is eliminated and humanity has awakened, an end can be put to this production of evil.
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Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.
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