You know the old adage: Plant an expectation, reap a disappointment.
Elizabeth GilbertRead
I still can’t say whether I ever want children….I can only say how I feel now--grateful to be on my own. I also know that I won’t go forth and have children just in case I might regret missing it later in life; I don’t think this is a strong enough motivation to bring more babies onto the earth.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote expresses a reflection on the decision to have children, emphasizing gratitude for one's current life choices over societal pressures.
Elizabeth Gilbert reflects on her ambivalence toward parenthood, prioritizing her current sense of independence and gratitude over the fear of future regret. She suggests that making such a significant decision should not solely be based on potential future feelings, but rather on the present understanding of one's desires and motivations.
Themes
ParenthoodGratitudeIndependenceMotivationLife Choices
In practice
Example use cases
During a discussion on family planning at a community event.
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