Don't we forgive everything of a lover? We forgive selfishness, desire, guile. As long as we are the motive for it...There are some European words you can never translate properly into another language.
Michael OndaatjeRead
I have spent weeks in the desert, forgetting to look at the moon, he says, as a married man may spend days never looking into the face of his wife. These are not sins of omission but signs of pre-occuopation.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights how distractions can lead us to neglect what truly matters, like our loved ones.
Michael Ondaatje's quote reflects on the momentary preoccupations that often distract us from appreciating the significant aspects of our lives, such as a spouse's presence. By drawing a parallel between ignoring the moon in the desert and overlooking a partner's face, it serves as a reminder to be present and attentive in our relationships, recognizing that these oversights are more about the distractions of life than intentional neglect.
Themes
PreoccupationRelationshipsAttentionAwarenessNeglect
In practice
Example use cases
This quote could be used in a relationship counseling session to emphasize the importance of attentiveness to partners.
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