You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity..

People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us..

Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to the next….

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy..

The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action..

You mainly feel the way you think..

Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up..

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the pr….

Reality is not so much what happens to us; rather, it is how we think about those events that create the reality we experience. In a very real sense,….

Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them..

Stop shoulding on yourself.

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it..

If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally - ….

By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit..

Thinking rationally is often different from "positive thinking," in that it is a realistic assessment of the situation, with a view towards rectifyin….

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think….

Worrying about dying will hardly help you live..

If human emotions largely result from thinking, then one may appreciably control one's feelings by controlling one's thoughts - or by changing the in….

In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you..

You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors. You have the a….

It is only in your mind that you have to excel, at anything or everything. Of course, it would be very nice to excel at most things. Indeed, we recom….