Depression is the flaw in love. There's no such thing as love without the anticipation of loss. And that specter of despair can be the engine of intimacy.
Andrew SolomonRead
Antonin Artaud wrote on one of his drawings, "Never real and always true," and that is how depression feels. You know that it is not real, that you are someone else, and yet you know that it is absolutely true.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects the paradoxical nature of depression, where one's feelings are understood as both unreal and undeniable.
Andrew Solomon's interpretation of Antonin Artaud's quote captures the complex experience of depression. It highlights how individuals suffering from depression can recognize that their feelings may not correspond to reality, yet they feel them profoundly and undeniably. This duality can create a sense of disconnection from the self while simultaneously reinforcing the authenticity of their emotional state.
Themes
DepressionEmotionTruthSelfPerception
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about mental health awareness, one might say, 'As Andrew Solomon puts it, depression can feel both unreal and yet absolutely true.'
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