You know the old adage: Plant an expectation, reap a disappointment.
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You have now reached infatuation’s final destination—the complete and merciless devaluation of self.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights the detrimental effects of infatuation on one's self-worth.
In this quote, Elizabeth Gilbert warns of the dangers of infatuation, suggesting that it can lead to a complete loss of self-esteem and identity. Infatuation, often mistaken for love, can devalue individuals, making them feel less worthy and compromising their self-respect as they become overly focused on their affection for another person, often overlooking their own needs and feelings in the process.
Themes
InfatuationSelf-WorthRelationshipsDevaluationLove
In practice
Example use cases
During a breakup support group, I shared this quote to illustrate the potential pitfalls of falling too hard without maintaining self-respect.
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