You know the old adage: Plant an expectation, reap a disappointment.
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Nobody until very recently would have thought that their husband was supposed to be their best friend, confidante, intellectual soul mate, co-parent, inspiration.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The modern view of marriage encompasses friendship and emotional support beyond traditional roles.
In this quote, Elizabeth Gilbert reflects on the evolving nature of marital relationships, highlighting that contemporary expectations have expanded beyond the conventional roles of husband and wife. She suggests that a successful partnership now includes emotional intimacy, friendship, shared responsibilities, and mutual inspiration, indicating a shift towards viewing spouses as best friends and equals rather than merely fulfilling societal expectations.
Themes
MarriageFriendshipRelationshipIntimacyLovePartnership
In practice
Example use cases
During a relationship seminar, I shared a quote about modern marriages redefining friendship.
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