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Perfectionism is self destructive simply because there's no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Striving for perfection can harm us because perfection is unattainable.
BrenΓ© Brown emphasizes that perfectionism is a harmful pursuit as it sets an impossible standard that no one can reach. This belief can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-destruction, as the relentless chase for perfection distracts us from embracing our true selves and achievements.
Themes
PerfectionismSelf-Destructive UnattainableGoalsAcceptance
In practice
Example use cases
Discussing the dangers of perfectionism in a mental health workshop.
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