Any group of persons β prisoners, primitives, pilots, or patients β develop a life of their own that becomes meaningful, reasonable and normal once you get close to it.
Erving GoffmanRead
When a stranger comes into our presence, then, first appearances are likely to enable us to anticipate his category and attributes, his 'social identity' - to use a term that is better than 'social status' because personal attributes such as 'honesty' are involved, as well as structural ones, like 'occupation.'
Interpretation
What this quote means
First impressions significantly shape our perceptions of others based on their visible attributes and societal roles.
This quote by Erving Goffman highlights the importance of first impressions in social interactions. When we encounter a stranger, our initial assessment often relies on their outward appearances and social markers, such as occupation and perceived honesty. These attributes influence how we categorize them socially, which may affect our subsequent behavior and judgment toward them.
Themes
First ImpressionSocial IdentityAttributesHonestyOccupation
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used during a workshop on networking and making lasting first impressions.
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