Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.
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Tragically, one of the rarest commodities in our culture is empathy. People are hungry for empathy, They don't know how to ask for it.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Empathy is often scarce in society, yet people deeply desire it but may struggle to express that need.
This quote highlights the critical role empathy plays in our interactions and relationships, pointing out that it is often lacking in our culture. Marshall B. Rosenberg emphasizes that while many individuals crave understanding and compassion from others, they may not know how to request it, leading to a gap in emotional connection and support among people.
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EmpathyUnderstandingRelationshipsCultureCommunication
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about improving community engagement, one might say, 'As Marshall B. Rosenberg noted, tragically, one of the rarest commodities in our culture is empathy.'
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