Marshall B. Rosenberg

Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

However impressed we may be with NVC concepts, it is only through practice and application that our lives are transformed.

Before we tackle the gangs and the basic story, we have to make sure that we have liberated ourselves from how we have been educated and make sure we are coming from a spirituality of our own choosing.

NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.

Miracles can happen when we can keep our consciousness away from analyzing and classifying one another.

Once you have access to key people in an organization, if you go into a meeting with enemy images of those people - then you are not going to connect.

Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment.

NVC suggests behind every action, however ineffective, tragic, violent, or abhorrent to us, is an attempt to meet a need.

Life-Enriching Education: an education that prepares children to learn throughout their lives, relate well to others, and themselves, be creative, flexible, and venturesome, and have empathy not only for their immediate kin but for all of humankind.

At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.

Violence in any form is a tragic expression of our unmet needs.

Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling.

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.

When we make mistakes, we can use the process of NVC mourning and self-forgiveness to show us where we can grow instead of getting caught up in moralistic self-judgments.

We recognize that real educational reform is essential if today's and tomorrow's children are to live in a more peaceful, just, and sustainable world.

Anger is a signal that you're distracted by judgmental or punitive thinking, and that some precious need of yours is being ignored.

When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.

Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.

Every moment each human being is doing the best we know at that moment to meet our needs. We never do anything that is not in the service of a need, there is no conflict on our planet at the level of needs. We all have the same needs. The problem is in strategies for meeting the needs.